12 Steps To Building The Ideal Lifestyle
The ideal
lifestyle is possible. Everyone can live the way they want… and in fact, they
do. Because the way you live now, regardless of whether you like it or not, is
what you chose to live like.
And you
realize that mostly when you compare yourself to others, or when you do things
you don’t want to do (the job you don’t like, different tasks and commitments).
It’s when you see the bigger picture and understand this is not the way you
want to live that you become aware of the fact that you can actually live
better. So then you ask yourself: “What do I want my life to be like?” and “Who
do I want to be in it?”.
And that
itself is the first step towards your journey to the ideal lifestyle. It’s not
about perfectionism, not at all. It’s about not having to work something we
can’t stand, do things we don’t want, miss opportunities, lack time and sleep
and so on.
It’s about
enjoying life more, doing what you love, becoming someone you can be proud of,
doing things for others and actually spending more time with your loved ones,
creating things, giving and sharing… and simply being happy and contented with
every day of your life.
1. Define the ideal lifestyle
For a
start, ask yourself those two questions: “What do I want my life to be
like?” and “Who do I want to be in it?”. Answer them in the best and most
honest way possible, because this will be your definition of what you want in
life and who you want to become, and will eventually become your reality after
some time.
An
important thing you don’t want to miss is accepting the idea that you need to
become someone else in order to live another kind of lifestyle. Many people
thing what could they improve in the outer world and tend to forget that many
inner changes will happen too that are often more crucial. So be aware of that
and embrace the qualities you need to build to become that person.
2. Eliminate the unnecessary
Without doing this, you can’t go any further.
Because there are many things in your life right now that are preventing you
from moving on. They may be people, thoughts, events, habits and so on. What
you need to do is to eliminate them because they don’t have a place in your
ideal lifestyle.
I don’t want to repeat myself (I’ve already
written about it in a previous post), so here are the things that hold you
back.
3. Find what works best for you
Now that you have eliminated the unnecessary,
you can make another step in your personal development. And this is the time to
try and fail as much as possible. What I mean is, you need to find what works
best for you. And the best way is to try as many different things as you can
and preferably fail many times. Because there is no better teacher than
experience and once you fail at something, you will know whether or not it’s
for you and if it’s worth working on it.
Experiment with everything.
You will eventually find our which is the
best sport for you, the foods that give you energy and boost your metabolism,
the best time during the day for personal projects or working, the habits you
need to establish, how you want to look, talk and behave and so on. You may
decide that waking up at 5 a.m. is just not your things and although it’s
connected with productivity and most successful people do it, you’re just more
productive around lunch, or in the evening. So listen to your instincts in this
case and do what’s best for you.
Test different sleep patterns, working hours,
behavior, motivation strategies and so on. Find your thing and stick to it.
4. Build a few keystone habits
A keystone habit is a habit that provokes a
chain of other activities that are good for you.
Getting up early for me is connected to a
morning ritual with a healthy breakfast, a quick workout and a positive start
of the day. This usually includes reading affirmations out loud and writing
something. Going to the gym every day helps me stay on track. It’s followed by
alternating hot and cold showers and staying motivated for the rest of the day.
The earlier you build such habits, the better. Once you make them stick],
everything else will improve too. So work on them now and concentrate on other
things later.
Here are the best habits you can start
implementing now:
- working out;
- meditating;
- eating healthy;
- getting up early;
- planning your day from the night before;
They are proven to work wonders and it’s very
important to stick to them no matter what. Just make them lifelong habits and
do the certain thing even if you’re on a vacation, even after you’ve had a bad
day, even when everything seems pointless.
This can happen by listening to your inner
voice, focusing on the things you enjoy doing, and trying new things.
The point is to not only find it, but also
embrace it, get better in this things and make it an essential part of your
daily life.
That will brings you such happiness,
contentedness and purpose that you’ll never doubt it’s your thing.
6. Make it your job
Here things get a little harder as you’ll
need to work on your passion as you’ve probably never worked before in your
life. But the difference this time is that you’ll be doing something you love,
so you can’t really call it working.
If you want to become a writer, write every
single day, whenever you can. Try to improve your writing at the same time and
find ways to promote your work.
If you are a gym freak, master your
performance in the gym. Shape your body. Learn everything in this niche and get
a certificate. Become a personal trainer and help others achieve the body you
want. This way you’ll communicate only with people willing to improve
themselves and will spend most of your days in the gym. Maybe open one of your
own one day.
If the only thing you want is to become good
in picking up girls, then practice that and master it. Read everything you can.
It’s pure psychology so find out what you need to know about human behavior,
how the brain works, confidence and so on. Practice it daily by talking to
every girl you meet. Become overconfident and able to impress every girl you
speak with. Then when you can consider yourself great in doing it, start
teaching others how to do it. Make a blog, give ideas, train other shy guys how
to get out there. Make videos, share advice. Speak in the 21 Convention one
day.
I gave 3 totally random examples because I
wanted to show you how absolutely everything in this world can be mastered and
turned into something prosperous. Once you find what your passion is, work hard
on it, dedicate time, energy and effort, believe in it every single day, you’ll
manage to make it your job.
And this will be a dream job. One that
perfectly suits an ideal lifestyle.
7. Decide what time you want to spend working
Arrange things in such a way that you’ll be
able to work every second week, a few hours each day, or 4 days in a week. It
could be anything.
But this, of course, will be after you’ve
worked hard enough and long enough (a year or so) and have turned what you love
into a business.
8. Travel often
Traveling is one of the best things you can
do in life. It’s important to make it something you’ll do at least once or
twice a year. Preferably every 2-3 months. Most people usually travel to get
out of reality and forget about their problems. But you’ve build such a
lifestyle that has a great reality and you don’t want escape from it. Traveling
is just because you don’t want to get stuck, to miss out on the beautiful
things the world has to offer. You will refind yourself too while doing it,
learn a lot about other cultures and see the beauty of life.
This way your life will never be sedentary
and you’ll never get bored.
9. Have hobbies
Find out other things you enjoy doing and
dedicate time to them every now and then.
10. Be always on the go
Never miss an opportunity to learn something
new. No matter who you are now and what your income is, you always have what to
learn.
Don’t neglect your spiritual and mental
world. Meditate, read good books and find inspiration.
11. Always be open for new things
Try to do something new and something you
fear a few times a month.
It may be approaching strangers, bungee
jumping, public speaking, dancing, visiting new countries, trying new sports,
etc.
Each of them will be an amazing experience
and will make your life even more exciting.
12. Give and be grateful
Giving is the best investment and can make
you way more contented than buying new stuff. So be able to give as much as you
can, be it advice, help, encouragement, money, stuff you don’t use and
need. Volunteer or give for charity. Also never forget to be
grateful. Each step of this journey should go along with appreciation.
Everything you have, even when it’s not more, is amazing and a big reason to
feel deeply grateful. Express that feeling everyday towards the things, people,
events and stuff in your life.
You see, building the ideal lifestyle may
take some time, but it’s not impossible. Actually anyone can have it. They just
need a burning desire to achieve all that, willingness to sacrifice, patience
and a strong belief.
Eventually, they’ll understand it’s all worth
it. And enjoying the journey is one of the things that make the ideal lifestyle
such a sweet experience.
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