13
Tricks People Good At Impressing Anyone Would Know
First
impressions last a lifetime, especially when it comes to impressing anyone.
Dale Carnegie, author of How to Win Friends and
Influence People once said, “When dealing with people,
remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of
emotion.” Impress anyone with these 12 tricks up your sleeve.
1. They aren’t afraid to be themselves
Most of us
know when someone is being disingenuous. The people who are comfortable in
their own skin are able to communicate authentically and create a comfortable
atmosphere during any conversation.
2. They have a firm handshake
A study
was done at the University of Alabama where 112 students were evaluated over a
nine-month period based on their personality and handshake. Researchers said
that “a person’s handshake is consistent over time and is related to some
aspects of his or her personality. Those with a firm handshake were more
extroverted, open to new experience, less neurotic and shy than those with a
less firm handshake.”
3. They make eye contact
The eyes
are the windows to the soul. When communicating with someone the best way
to tell whether or not they are paying attention is if their eyes wander. In
ancient tantric practices, yogis use what is called “transfiguration” to look
deep into the eyes of another to recognise their higher, divine qualities.
4. They remember a person’s name
Carnegie
writes, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and
most important sound in any language.” The best way to remember someone’s name
is to repeat it three times when you first meet them.
5. They ask questions
Asking
questions lets the other person know you are engaged in the conversation, and
you’re genuinely interested in what they have to say. You may also find out
things you never knew.
6. They listen
It’s
impossible to listen when thinking about a response. In the loud world we live
in, people are losing the ability to listen. Sixty-percent of our communication
is listening and we only retain twenty-five percent. Talk less, and you’ll find
yourself hearing more.
7. They speak the way the other person would like to be
spoken to
You might
be speaking to someone who is shy and quiet or loud and outgoing. From personal
experience, it takes work to learn how to speak to an introvert when you are an
extrovert, and vice versa.
8. They remain positive
People
like to spend time with those who are positive and who smile. We all have
our bad days, but when it comes to impressing others, leave your baggage at the
door. A smile can be found right under your nose.
9.They understand body language
Physiology
creates psychology. As social psychologist Amy Cuddy explains in her TED talk,
“Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are,” our body language affects how not only how others see
us, but how we see ourselves.
10. They make the other person feel important
Conversations
are a two-way street. By stepping back and not making the conversation about
you, you allow the other person to feel that you really care about what
they have to say.
11. They dress to impress
You don’t
have to wear designer clothes to impress others. Caring about your appearance
also means having good hygiene and wearing clean clothes.
12. They don’t look at their phone
In this
day and age we are glued to our smart phones. The less attached we are to our
phones, the more we will impress the people we are engaging with.
13. They don’t take themselves too seriously
Make
someone laugh, and you’ll be friends for life.
BY DARA SIMKIN
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