Saturday, April 25, 2015

PERSONAL SPECIAL .................................Get rid of your Black Holes

Get rid of your Black Holes


Are you aware of people and activities that are a sheer waste of your time, and sap energy?
Identify these Black Holes and clear your way towards a more meaningful life

When the days just speed by and you are left panicking about `the petty done, the undone vast', it is time to free yourself from the Black Holes in your life ­ things and people who sap your time, energy and life force. Feel frustrated and empty at the end of the day? A sure sign you are occupied with non-essentials, leaving you too tired for what clearly matters most. For, if a day goes as per plan, it should leave you happy and pleasantly exhausted, not enervated and frazzled.
The Black Holes that are a drag on your physical, mental and spiritual energy could be in the form of people or activities that waste time and energy, and gnaw at your centre of calm. These, if given up, would free up pockets of your day that can be filled with so much more meaningful stuff, leaving you happier and more fulfilled.
Just like the Black Holes which two recent movies, Interstellar and The Theory of Everything revolved around. A Black Hole is a place where gravity becomes such a powerful force that it overwhelms all other forces of the Universe. Once inside, nothing can escape, not even light. As we saw in Interstellar, even time falls prey to the force and slows down! But astral Black Holes are events and structures formed far away, with little or no impact on us. What about those we create for ourselves ­ people and objects that draw us in inexorably, not allowing an escape back into our own sphere and time? Can you enumerate the black holes you get sucked into daily? If you are evolved enough to have a sense of your purpose, and so of the value of your time, you will be able to identify daily incidents that leave you feeling empty.
More often than not it is mindless engagement with people whose mental energies and preoccupations don't match ours. This can be extremely taxing and unless you hit upon a topic of common concern and limit the period of interaction, very frustrating too. However, most of the time we are too polite to cut short, or give a direction to conversations. Negative people with dire predictions are another soul-sapping source, as are those who insist on controlling you as an extension of their own power field, trying to tell you how to lead your own life better, and full of nuggets of their own wisdom.
Wildly-raging emotions are another major enervator, in fact a veritable soul sapper. An emotional rollercoaster ride can leave you distracted and helpless like nothing else. Emotional turmoil and agitation has the strength of pulling us into its vortex inexorably; all else fades away and we are swamped by depression, stress and a sense of hopelessness. Ever noticed, when in love, one can do little else but handle one's fast changing emotional landscape? Some people specialise in controlling others by playing with their emotions.They drag you into unnecessary emotional whirlpools -advancing and retreating; lavishing attention, then ignoring; talking intimately, then lapsing into silence -adopting controlling tactics that surround and distract you. Once you understand the technique, you become immune to it.
And then of course there are the myriad things we do which drain away our energy and time. Sadly, we seem unaware of the toll these take on our lives. The best of us are susceptible to such soul-sapping activities ­ checking our phone repeatedly, refreshing Facebook, worrying endlessly, taking selfies of every moment rather than enjoying it, watching TV aimlessly, procrastinating, hanging onto an unrequited love or bemoaning one that ended... Guilty of any? I sure am! The good news is that the first step towards ridding oneself of these spirit sappers is to identify them. Stop. Take stock. Understand what makes you happy and then slowly start clearing your way towards it by giving up on the life-sapping forces that weigh you down and hamper onward movement.
vinitadawra nangia

 TL5APR15

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